"Embarrassment is automatic. Staying embarrassed is a choice"

As humans feeling embarrassed after some situations is just an emotional reflex, you know like the urge to vanish and the stomach drop etc. It is a very uncomfortable feeling that will almost haunt you for your whole lifetime. Every time you just chill, your brain just randomly reminds you of something embarrassing you did. Worst feeling ever.

It is important that we don’t let this emotional reflex stay longer within us. For example, a daily occurring simple embarrassing moment would be tripping in public. This is almost everyone's biggest fear. If you trip in public, you can either spend the whole day in horror reminiscing the moment or you can just laugh it off. That choice is yours to make.

Just think about it. How many people notice the simple moments you feel embarrassed about. Also known as the spotlight effect. We always think we are being watched and judged than we actually are. It could be giving a wrong answer is class, tripping on the road and stuff . Other than that moment the people around us do not mind it as they have enough things going on in their lives. Ok, I agree your close friends may notice and not let you live it down. But be honest, you would do the same for your friends. So, you should just join your friends and laugh it off.

An important thing is differentiating between embarrassment and shame. For example, let’s say that you tripped while walking. You just consider it a “at the moment scenario” and just laugh it off you or you tried to hide away telling yourself that “I am a clumsy person” which kind of makes you insecure. Shame stops you from trying again, every next time feels riskier which in one way ruins your chances to find out your own talent. Which eventually becomes a loop chipping away your confidence.

Every time your brain gives you flashbacks of embarrassing moments you have faced. Just think whether it matters now or will it ever matter in the future. Just know that even though those moments are embedded into your core other people are very fast to forget it. So, my advice is: just laugh it off and forget it. Like why torture yourself for just a moment of mishap occurred in your life. Usually, all the actions that do not meet the standard we imagined in our minds are considered embarrassing.

If you are someone who is falling behind because you feel embarrassed, you need to know that recovery from embarrassment is a trainable skill. Reading about this helped me throughout my journey because I myself was in such a situation.

All you must do is, every time you feel that urge to disappear type of discomfort tell yourself that “This is embarrassment and not shame” and try to shrug it off by telling yourself that “ok. that happened” and just move on without over analyzing the situation.

So never let a moment ruin your entire mindset. Going through a few embarrassing moments is part of shaping who you become. Hope this helped. The choice is yours.